Things I have learned about people…


I wanted to continue with the train of thought started by a recent post “Things I’ve learned about God.”
Through my experiences in inner healing ministry, I’ve not only learned about God, but also about people. While people are all different, they generally fall into the same traps that prevent them from receiving freedom. The devil is not creative.
Jesus has the power to heal all who call upon His name. The Holy Spirit is available to anyone who desires to live strong, powerful lives that are free from lies and depression. However, the reality is that not all Christians are free from bondage, even though they have the capability to do so.
There are factors that affect one’s ability to successfully undergo inner-healing. For example, if you hire the best personal trainer money can afford, that doesn’t always guarantee pristine physical fitness. Regardless the trainer, the trainee must demonstrate a certain lifestyle, willpower, and teachability to achieve positive results. I would know; I once had a personal trainer in college, and it lasted about two weeks.
For those that are beginning or in the midst of a journey to freedom, these are some things that would help you leap a couple steps forward. Mind you, these are not actual steps towards deliverance! However, they are observations that will fortify the process that you have already begun with the Lord and with your community.

1. One may not have enough self-awareness.

Friends, self-awareness is gold. It is a type of wisdom that everyone needs, and it must be intentionally sought out. Self-awareness is such an invaluable key to your marriage, your parenting, your career – everything.
Oftentimes, in an inner-healing session, half the obstacle of trying to deal with certain wounds is the lack of self-awareness.
“I had no idea that I had so much bitterness against my mom.”
“I didn’t know that these thoughts were not normal.”
“I didn’t think that my lack of commitment was hurting that many people.”
“I didn’t think that this habit was such a problem in my life.”
So on and so forth.
Seek self-awareness by asking those that know you, reading the right literature, and spending time in God’s Presence.
Proverbs 20:5 says, “The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.”

2. One may be addicted to a victim mentality.

There is absolutely no appeal to becoming a victim. No one wants hardship and abuse thrown at them. However, there is much draw to a victim mentality.
The essence of a victim mentality is a bent will, the mantra of “I can’t…” The thing is, this may be true. You really may be incapable of breaking out of depression or finding a job. However, the issue with a victim mentality, as opposed to just being a victim, is that it renounces the responsibility for growth and freedom under the banner of “…because I can’t.”
However, it is possible to have been a victim without holding onto a victim mentality. This is because Christ makes us able.
You can forgive. You can let go of the past. You can call out to God. You can take hold of your mind and make it captive to Jesus. That “can” does not come from you, rather, it comes from God.
Psalm 118:5-7 says, “When hard pressed, I cried to the Lord; he brought me into a spacious place. The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me? The Lord is with me; he is my helper. I look in triumph on my enemies.”

3. One can mistakenly see fear as wisdom.  

Fear is so deceptive because it can make you feel like you are protecting yourself with it. However, fear is a poisonous security blanket for this generation.
“Don’t surrender it all to God or else you will regret it…”
“Don’t trust this person because you will just replay the past all over again…”
“Don’t allow yourself to feel the joy or you will be disappointed soon after…”
It sounds like you are protecting yourself, when, really, you are robbing yourself.
Oftentimes, when God has a breakthrough waiting for someone, the enemy starts releasing fearful thoughts. Do not listen to these thoughts, no matter how convincing or “wise” they seem. ALL fear is a lie.
My husband once said in a Sunday service, “God’s greatest command in the Bible is to love Him and others. His most common command is to fear not.”

4. Most people know that God is right, but not all believe that He is good.

One may carry a deep hatred for God without knowing it. You may love Him because He is your Savior. However, you may hate the way He “expects perfection” or “makes you pay for your blessings.” Obviously, all of these thoughts are not biblically true.
Inner-healing cannot happen if you carry such a low view of God. In the same way, you cannot become closer to any human while secretly judging him or her.
If you read 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, you read a passage on love. But, what people may not always realize is that this passage is also about the nature of God because God IS love. Therefore…
God is patient.
God is kind.
God does not envy, boast, or is proud.
God does not dishonor.
God is not self-seeking.
God is not easily angered.
God keeps no record of wrongs.
God does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
God always protects, always trusts, always hopes for you, and always perseveres.
God is good.  

5. One may underestimate the value of community.

Here is one of the most deceptive things I have heard people say while seeking out God’s healing: “I just need to take a break from the community right now in order to heal.
Yes, people are fallen, unpredictable, and weak. But, God sure does love using them. If community was not important, why would the Holy Spirit in Acts 2 descend upon a gathering of worshippers that have, until that very moment, united each day to seek His face? Why didn’t He just visit everyone in their individual homes?
You are stronger with the gathering of the saints. You are more protected when you are in a community of believers.

6. One may mistakenly believe that you can be free of bondage while still holding onto sin.

You can’t break off depression while still holding onto your addiction to sexual sins. You can’t break off the pains of past trauma while still holding onto drunkenness and substance abuse.
Sin invites more demonic oppression and opens the doors to more lies and deception.
Galatians 5:13 says, “You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh…”

7. One may underestimate the power of obedience.

“I want God Himself to tell me to join a church small group…”
“Even though I know He loves me, I need a sign to really believe it…”
“I know I should let this go, but I just don’t feel like it…”
These are telltale signs that you are just an obedience away from your breakthrough. It is easy to over-dramatize what it takes to walk into one’s long-awaited freedom. But, if you are in need of healing, you cannot be the one to dictate how that goes about. It must be God-led. The sign that you are allowing God to lead you into freedom is by demonstrating obedience.
1 Samuel 15:22 says, “To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of rams.”
“I will walk about in freedom, for I have sought out your precepts.” (Psalm 119:45)

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